2020年7月12日星期日

【電郵📧信箱】018


問:去年11月我母親過世,我的世界也在一瞬間崩毀。我才發現用死了一半的心活在這個虛幻的人生世界真的不容易。

大概兩三個月前在東風電視台看到有關人類圖的節目,我覺得我晚了一步才發現,否則我會跟她在這人類圖有更多的話題。因為我馬上用我對她的了解去查了她的人類圖,我就發現在簡單的表格分類說她是屬於情緒型顯示者,主題是非憤怒。

當下我被說服了,因為包括我對他的了解,加上連她自己也說她是不能生氣的人。我心中真的充滿了很多遺憾和自責,因為跟她的關係是非常依賴又非常矛盾,常會有一些言語衝突。

她走了之後,我懷疑自己是否沒真正愛過她。也許依賴不是愛最好的表現,因為我單身,個性敏感怕無聊又怕感情傷害,習慣了一個人。

她走了之後,我覺得人生真的是一場好虛幻的夢。也許是因為太真實,而相對的換來虛假。而人的本質脆弱無常,真正的堅強應該只剩這趟還沒走完、還沒學會的生命意志的強化吧?

我覺得現在生活都失去了意義和動力,可以煩請老師綜合我的人類圖的大方向和建議為我指點迷津

答:記得一年多前,我搞了一個公開講座,主題是原生家庭 x 人類設計圖。分享會裡,我分享了人類設計圖對自己的影響,以及當我了解父母的人類設計圖之後,如何改變了我對父母的看法及跟他們之間的互動。

分享會完結後,一個男孩留言到我的facebook說:"You have changed my life"。

我很好奇,為甚麼男孩對講座的感受那麼強烈?

原來,男孩的家庭狀況跟我的有點類似。當我分享如何因為知道媽媽的人類設計圖,而讓我對她的說話及行為有另一個了解,以及如何改變了跟媽媽之間的互動,他回家就依樣畫葫蘆,結果,他發現自己的態度跟媽媽的態度,瞬間就變得不一樣。

了解會自然產生改變,人類設計圖的魔法,對我來說,是讓我們能夠更了解另一個人!畢竟每個人都是從自己的角度與感受看世界,人類設計圖就好像另一扇窗,讓我們能夠了解,其他人是如何了解及感受世界。

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【通道12-22的挑戰】


接二連三聽到有父母,面對著擁有通道12-22的孩子,感到不知如何是好。。。

的確,若孩子的設計圖出現這條通道,容易讓父母感到不知如何是好。。。因為擁有這條通道的孩子,情緒會較為飄忽,突然心情好(in the mood),突然又心情不好(not in the mood)。重點是,孩子無mood的話,就咩都唔肯做。。。

父母的耐性就這樣,每天都被考驗著。。。

因為咁,我刻意找了我的朋友,一個擁有通道12-22的朋友,一個長大了的朋友。我想知道,擁有這條通道的她,希望如何被對待。

這是她的分享,很詳細,如果你是父母,希望你能夠從她的分享中,了解到孩子的需要,以及如何陪伴孩子成長。

"Hi Tracy, where to begin Lol... there’s sooooo much I can say about my experience with this energy. I have by far found it to be one of my most challenging parts of me, but also see its beauty... I have come to embrace, accept, flow and surrender to it as well. My 12/22 has a pattern or cycle of a months span around my cycle, sorry everyone if that’s TMI Lol, but the closer I get to my cycle the lower on my wave I go. Since I’m a Manifesting Generator, the lows of my 12/22 I welcome and give myself permission to slow down and rest and this flows nicely with my 5/15 as well... I live my every day life in flow, guided by my intuition and what I’m in the mood to do or not.

Any point of my wave can be a creative time for me, depends on what I’m in the mood to do or create, but typically when I’m feeling low, I rest or take that time to write or watch a movie or any form of self-care (physically, emotionally, spiritually) I’m know I’m not a victim of my wave and whatever mood I’m feeling is something I’m experiencing temporarily.

Things that can influence my 12/22: I have the 19/49 Tribal wave and hanging Gate 37 as well and that can influence or ‘throw off’ my 12/22 cycle if there is a relationship conflict or upset. Also I’ve noticed that sometimes I can be in a mid or high part of my wave and eager to create or get things done, but if my defined root pulses off, it shuts down that momentum Lol and so I surrender and go with that flow as well.

My 2nd line profile plays into this energy as well. The mood has to be right for me to communicate or share, also the lower on my wave I am the more I hermit. Additionally, I know when it’s the right time to respond to certain things/people or not, I listen and follow my intuition (internal flow), if the mood isn’t right to respond or it’s not the right timing to articulate I have a hard time trying to communicate what I’m trying to share or it doesn’t come out right or is taken in the wrong way. As we all know, timing is truly everything.

In my experience and opinion I think it’s fair to say for people who are entrepreneurs or doing their business online via social, it’s more challenging for people to show up consistently because there’s going to be periods of times when you don’t want to make a video or post or show up on IG stories or FB Live etc... because you’re not in the mood and when those people force it because they think they ‘have to’ because that’s how they’re making their money, that energy comes across. I know a couple people who have this energy and have just been up front and honest with their followers and explained to them about how their energy works and what they can expect.

I think one of the most loving things we can do for emotionally defined people is 1. to be aware of this energy without judgement and 2. to ask them, “Hey, are you in the mood to....” and then be totally and completely okay with whatever their answer is, and realize it’s not personal when they say, no, sorry, I’m not really in the mood to do that right now... no guilt, no judgement, just love, acceptance and understanding. Honoring that energy and giving space for it.

I could go on and on with this...lots of different stories I could share as well, but I’ll lastly share this. This is an very short cliff notes version of an example story from a time in my life way before I knew anything about HD.

I was married for almost 10 years and the last 5 years of it was the most toxic, particularly with the very worst being the last 2 years before it cataclysmically ended. As you can imagine being in this type of tumultuous relationship with my 12/22, 19/49 and hanging 37 my emotions were alllllll over the place consistently....I knew it was because of my relationship and everything going on in my life was the reasons why I seemed so emotionally all over the place and my ex (who proudly self-diagnosed himself as a narcissistic sociopath) kept trying to convince me there was something wrong with me and I needed to be on medication.

As belittled, weak and beat down as I was at the time there was still a little fire within deep deep down that just knew there wasn’t anything wrong with me and I refused to go on medication. (Not that there’s anything wrong with medication, I know some people need it and I personally know people it has greatly helped) but I just knew deep down it wasn’t about medication for me, I didn’t have a chemical imbalance, I wasn’t bi-polar, I didn’t need anti-depressants, I knew it was because of my relationship and everything happening in my life at the time and he was just wanting to try and convince me to get on medication as another way to manipulate and control me.

Long story short, years later when I met my Design and saw my configuration and looked back at this moment in time, all the dots connected and it all made perfect sense. I have 10 years of amazing life lessons just from this one teaching relationship alone. I am so grateful for all of it.

When we don’t know Who We Are, we’ll believe what other people tell us about who they think or say we are and that can be really dangerous depending on who that person is or where that person is at in their journey.

And how to see the advantage with this: A person having awareness of this energy definition and giving themselves space and permission to experience whatever arises is the most loving and empowering way to respond. To realize everything is just energy, to not lose sight of the bigger picture and to remain in a state of remembrance of consciousness that is never the victim, but one of Co-Creator."

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【尊重】


是甚麼時候開始,你失去了對自己的尊重?

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【相生相剋】




萬物相生相剋,先讓自己靜下來。

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【討好】


討好任何人之前,請先討好你自己。

#給爻4的話 #給情緒能量中心空白的話

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【靜心】


靜心時,人很容易跟著自己的情緒走,然後跟情緒相關的人事物,就開始一一在腦海中播放(通常是童年往事,有些人甚至會看到前世)。

靜心時,當醒覺到自己跟著情緒走,就要開始提醒自己,把注意力放回呼吸上。不斷重覆這個「把注意力放回呼吸上」的動作,直到注意力能夠完全放回呼吸上。

然後你會發現,你開始能夠覺察到,那個產生情緒的信念。

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是我有問題嘛?


有些問題,重覆又重覆
令人不禁想,是我有問題嘛?

找不到自己的人生方向?
自我價值很低?
經常為身邊人忙這忙那,但自己有事時卻沒有人來幫自己?
做事三分鐘熱度?註定一事無成?
害怕與身邊人起衝突,結果經常委屈求存?
覺得沒有人聽到自己的聲音?

如果有一幅設計圖,可以讓你知道以上每個問題的答案,你會否有興趣去了解,甚至去學習?

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